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I'm A Girly Girl Raising Boys - Audrey McClelland

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

I'm a girly girl raising boys. 4 boys to be exact. I remember when I first announced my pregnancy with my oldest son William, way back in March of 2004. Almost everyone I knew said to me, It just has to be a girl. I can only see you with girls. On May 20th, 2004 I found out I was having a boy. A healthy baby boy who would be named William. And he arrived exactly on his due date of September 25, 2004, in New York City. My William. My beautiful son. Fast forward 4 1⁄2 years and 3 more sons Alexander (3), Benjamin (2) and Henry (1).

My life is full of Indiana Jones and Star Wars and dinosaurs and trucks and cars. And lots of blue clothing. Lots and lots of blue clothing. I wouldn't have it any other way, truly. I love these 4 men in my life. They are my anchor. My reason for living. My heart made visible to the world. But it is funny me, the girly girl raising boys. Growing up with 2 older brothers, I know a few things about boy things. Baseball and football and basketball were constant conversations in my home. We would race each other around the yard and see who could swing the highest and push each other down our swing set slide (not always softly!). I collected baseball cards and thought it was funny watching my brothers wrestle over who got to play Nintendo first. I guess one could say that I could keep up with the boys in my house but preferred the shopping and Barbie playing and makeup dreaming and trying on my mothers high heels. That was me. But you know my mother was a girly girl raising boys, too.

 I remember as a child, we used to have these massive wiffle ball games in our backyard. It was always me, Jane (my younger sister), my 2 brothers, my parents and any neighbors who were available to play. The games were very casual, but had (and did) the potential to become very competitive. And they were always so much fun! What I loved most about these games was that my mother always played. No other mothers in the neighborhood played. Honesty, those moments in time are truly some of the most defining moments of my childhood. When I looked at my mom and thought to myself, Shes so cool! My girly girl mom playing in her favorite mule espadrilles. Looking fashionable while staying sporty. Its funny how those moments have remained locked in my mind. My mother knew how to do it all she could look spectacular and buy and wear gorgeous clothing AND play wiffle ball in the backyard with the boys. With William, Alexander and Benjamin being older now, they love to play baseball with Matt in our front yard. Every night the 3 of them line up and Matt pitches balls for them to hit. Its adorable and precious. But what I love most of all is seeing their eyes when I come outside to play. They love to see if Mommy can hit the ball and run as fast as them (of course, I always let them win!) yes, even in high heels. This is me. This is who I am. And I love that my boys get to see this girly girl side of me while I hang and do things that my sons (and husband) love to do. That was how I was raised.

I remember my mother throwing footballs. And playing volleyball. And just loving it all. It is moments like this in our yard, playing baseball with my boys, when I look at my 5 men (including my husband) and think to myself, Can life get any better than this!? I may not be painting nails, or playing Barbie, or dashing off to dance class, or braiding hair, or making a princess outfit (yet!). Im raising boys, but Im still a girly-girl at heart. Jimmy Choos may not be cleats but I'll tell you what, they can round bases like no other.

Audrey McClelland is a Co-founder of MomGenerations.com. She gives fashion advice everyday (to moms) on her blog series, "365 Days of Fashion Advice for Moms."  In 2004, Audrey co-authored the book 'Preconception Plain & Simple'.  In 2009 Nielson named her one of the top 2009 "Power Pack Moms" online.

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Natatat wrote:
1) 6/30/2009 8:57:44 AM
I grew up with all sisters and my husband keeps saying we'll end up with all boys just to tease me for knowing nothing about how to raise them. After reading this, I'm starting to think it can't be all that bad though!
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makeupmagik wrote:
2) 6/30/2009 10:17:07 AM
I understand what she's saying, I'm a girly girl who had only boys at home , until 3 years ago.When my son was 7 years old I found out I was pregnant, and I thougth it was another boy , but what a surprise to learn that it was a girl!We couldn't belive it! She's 3 now, a girly girl just like me , who also enjoys sports :)
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3) 6/30/2009 11:15:21 AM
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4) 6/30/2009 11:56:01 AM
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Little Mama wrote:
5) 6/30/2009 12:40:59 PM
I grew up in a house of all women. Even my pets were all girls. So my dad was always out numbered on everything. Now I am a very girly mom with a house full of boys. I love it. The night I got engaged my dad put in an order for three boys, I think he wanted someone to be on his side for a change, and even though he got boys there is still no one on his side. My boys are fiere in protecting and agreeing with me. I love it.
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Gie wrote:
6) 6/30/2009 2:14:42 PM
I can't wait to be a mother. However, I have always wanted a daughter. Just one. But after reading this blog, I can't wait to have lots of boys! Thank you for being an inspiration... girly moms can play with the guys too! In heels!
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phenomena wrote:
7) 6/30/2009 3:25:49 PM
I honestly don't know what I'd do if I had only boys .. I love making my girls--even if they're not my kids, yet--feel beautiful. But with every situation has its beauty, in different ways, so I'm sure I'd be slightly okay with just having boys. Good job Audrey ... for raising great boys and having such a great attitude for a girly girl!
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best store ever wrote:
8) 6/30/2009 4:51:54 PM
what a great idea! i commend her for addressing a demographic that is so often ignored.
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moshihellokitty wrote:
9) 6/30/2009 4:52:29 PM
I have 2 younger sisters and we're all girly girls. I've always wanted an older brother to look out for me. I hope to have baby boys too as that will be totally different for me as I've always been surrounded by a lot of females.
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Being a mom wrote:
10) 6/30/2009 7:12:37 PM
Wow 4 boys! I have 3 girls and since i had no brothers grew up the one to know how to camp and bait my own hook when I fished with my dad. My mom wasn't really a girly girl, but i remember wearing lots of boyish clothing. Sports were also a big thing in my house. With my girlies ages 9, 6, and 4 its all about pedicures, nail polish, and lip gloss. I honestly have never had so much pink in my whole life. I am glad that I have read enough books to know how to apply make-up and can pass it on to my girls. By the way they all know hand to hand combat and play tons of sports in their dresses, skirts and shoes. LOL.
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Joccy101 wrote:
11) 6/30/2009 7:21:01 PM
She sounds really cool
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Iluvla78977 wrote:
12) 6/30/2009 8:10:59 PM
wow 4 kids that seems tough my brother is named willian
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glenda wrote:
13) 6/30/2009 9:03:09 PM
wow this is great..i'm a new mom and IT IS really difficult to have time for myself especially to do all the girly things i want to do! aahhh!~ i love this post! thanks!~
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linaaa wrote:
14) 7/1/2009 12:14:59 AM
Aww, that's precious! I give her a lot of props for handling 4 boys and a husband though. She must be strong woman but also very caring. Under her care, I'm sure her lovely boys will grow up to be handsome men!!
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hoggiefroggie wrote:
15) 7/1/2009 1:31:30 AM
wow this is soo sweet
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bellainny wrote:
16) 7/1/2009 1:34:57 AM
Audrey,you look amazing for someone who has 4 boys. I checked out your beauty blog, and I'm definitely going back for some more tips. How do you manage the time to for self-care and grooming?
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vlopez wrote:
17) 7/1/2009 8:20:47 AM
I'm still too young to have kids, but when i do i want my first one to be a boy. Once i heard about this website i just fell in love with it. And i just love the fact that everything is so cheap. I just want to say thank you for helping women to afford what they want to look even more beautiful.
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cat181962 wrote:
18) 7/1/2009 10:04:01 AM
WOWEE!!! 4 kids is one thing........4 BOYS is another!! LOL But it's fun, I know. You only go around once in this life, gotta make the most of it! And you ARE!! Good Job Mom!! Don't ever lose the 'girly girl' in you!! :) That's awesome! You are an inspiration! Thank You!
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abbyyyrose wrote:
19) 7/1/2009 11:14:51 AM
wow, congratulations! that's an incredible story. you have a very blessed life :]
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lylytiger wrote:
20) 7/1/2009 12:13:55 PM
Thanks for sharing the story. I have great memories of times I've spent with my mom and learnt a lot with her. Thanks again!
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chizzleqt wrote:
21) 7/1/2009 12:46:58 PM
i grew up with 4 boys and my mom raised us pretty much single so its not all bad, plus we turned out good :) i want two boys when im older theyre just so much cuter and playful than girls in my opinion
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LindaO wrote:
22) 7/1/2009 2:19:43 PM
love those boys with all your might every single day. i lost my only son last march (2008). He was 29 years old and I thank God every day for letting me borrow him for that period of time.
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jewell wrote:
23) 7/1/2009 2:50:37 PM
Great story! I'm a mom raising a very girly-girl! She's sixteen going on forty and SHE GIVES ME make up and fashion tips! Before I had my daughter, I was raising a son who was into Transformers, Ninja Turtles and Nintendo. Boys vs Girls...very different creatures! I have to say that I am thankful to have one of each. Although, raising a girl is very challenging at times!
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Cee wrote:
24) 7/1/2009 3:18:31 PM
I cant deifinitely understand you. I have 8 brothers and besides my mom im the only girl.
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Makeup Ali wrote:
25) 7/1/2009 3:35:30 PM
I grew up in a house of girls, im super girly. I have no idea how i would manage if i had all boys. They would probably be a little girly.
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eunji12 wrote:
26) 7/1/2009 4:06:16 PM
I think it's great for moms with all boys to still be girly-girls. I think it's great for any moms to still be girly-girls b/c when running after kids, it's so easy to forget about dressing up and putting on makeup. I don't have any kids myself, but it got really easy to be bummy when at school. So it's nice to see that despite the situation, women can still be girly-girls, inside and outside.
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kHope wrote:
27) 7/1/2009 4:30:22 PM
great story, thanks for sharing
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Momto2boys wrote:
28) 7/1/2009 4:35:07 PM
I am totally there too. I have 2 sons and they are my everything. I guess in a way I had thought a girl would be nice tohave so I could have the mother daughter times. But with my boys the love they give me is awesome. I truely feel God has given me the best gifts ever. Now that I look at my life, i am thankful I didn't have a girl... My boys are simply the best!
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tushmcgee wrote:
29) 7/1/2009 7:37:45 PM
i applaud you i can only imagine when i have kids if i have boys. im a total girly girl. thank god for the husband hehe
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donnadonut wrote:
30) 7/1/2009 7:38:46 PM
What a touching anecdote. I love how this elf blog expands above and beyond to include the personal stories of ordinary women. I don't have a family of my own yet, but this sure warms the heart!
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Teena wrote:
31) 7/1/2009 8:10:25 PM
I love reading this story!! It reminds me a lot of myself when I was younger!!! I was definitely not a girly-girl when I was younger. Now, I'm beginning to experiment with makeup, clothes, and shoes. But, I'm still a tom boy at heart!!
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kim0712 wrote:
32) 7/1/2009 8:22:34 PM
I'm very lucky because I had 3 girls - 1 of which was a girly girl. Then I was blessed with one boy, so I got the best of both worlds. I had to learn to be more tom-boyish (or outdoorsy) with my son - but it was amazing what I learned about myself! I actually do like the outdoor stuff!
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Great influence on boys! wrote:
33) 7/1/2009 6:42:22 PM
I have to say that Audrey McClelland looks great! I teared up when I read this article. I raised two stepsons and the mixing of nail polish and skate-boarding was just plain fun. The biggest compliment I received was when one of my stepsons (who is now 26 years old) said that I was always athletic! I hope I was a great influence on them showing that a woman can be a woman and also compete in sports! I'm going to give this article to my stepdaughter who is expecting number 3!
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Miji wrote:
34) 7/1/2009 8:35:24 PM
I think you should treat all of your children equally so they can maximize their potential to be anything they want.
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Kimberleeeey wrote:
35) 7/1/2009 8:59:30 PM
I really enjoyed reading this post. It's fun being a girly girl even with boys :)
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girly girl wrote:
36) 7/1/2009 9:26:59 PM
Sounds like a great times. Will be checking it out for sure!!!
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beth23 wrote:
37) 7/1/2009 9:30:20 PM
thanks for sharing your story- raising four boys doesn't seem easy, but it still seems rewarding!
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sugarjen wrote:
38) 7/1/2009 9:44:14 PM
I too raised boys and it is tough being girly and doing that. I just had to change so I did. Nice article, great thoughts here.
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sugarjen wrote:
39) 7/1/2009 9:49:33 PM
I too raised boys and being a girly person that too was so tough. I had to change and I did, but still try to keep the girly side. Great article.
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nicki72182 wrote:
40) 7/1/2009 9:54:27 PM
I really enjoyed reading this post. I am raising 2 boys and consider myself to be a "girly-girl" too. I love to play and get dirty and have fun with my boys also :)
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ATM&mom wrote:
41) 7/1/2009 10:05:49 PM
Thank you Audrey for sharing your thoughts. I am also a Mom of boys...three, ages 4, 2, and 7 months. I love to play, race, and wrestle with my boys. Although I'm a girly girl, I just can't see myself raising girls. I love my boys, and can't imagine life without them.
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rmg1980 wrote:
42) 7/1/2009 10:11:22 PM
looking back, i can't believe i kept a boy alive for 8yrs, considering that i started out w/no clue about anything "boyish"...i can't imagine being responsible for more than one boy though--waaay too much gross stuff for me!
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kcurl072007 wrote:
43) 7/1/2009 10:14:05 PM
thanks for another great blog. I think its great to be both feminine and strong!
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Iynn wrote:
44) 7/1/2009 10:23:01 PM
I can completely relate! Growing up with a brother, lots of cousins who boys and male friends, I always played and watched sports, but was always a girly girl at heart. It's great to be able to hang out with the guys and and still be your girly girl-self!
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Melissags wrote:
45) 7/1/2009 11:26:45 PM
I tried to take my son shopping with me today and given the option to go home with Dad (because he was sullen and bringing down the fun), he chose to go home.!!!! No fun.
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adoozer wrote:
46) 7/2/2009 12:00:47 AM
I loved your article and can completely relate. My house is also full of cars, trucks and a lot of blue clothes however I wouldn't change it for the world!
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SunnyB wrote:
47) 7/2/2009 12:02:33 AM
I grew up with 3 older brothers, I played football every day of the week after school, coming home many times with broken bones, from 250lb guys tackling me to the ground. I was on the 4 wheelers and dirt bikes most of my life, however at about 16, I came into my own, I started wearing dresses, putting on make up, caring about what my hair looked like when I went out, and although my brothers made fun of me and hated that I was turning into a woman, I loved every minute of it and began to embrace the fact that I was a girly girl! Many many years later, when I found out I was pregnant I wanted a little girl so bad, I was gonna make her the princess of pink, only to later discover it was a boy! I now have a rough and tough 3yr old little boy, and still feel like I don't know what to do with him! And although I too would love to play dress up and have a tea party, doing cannon balls in the pool, playing with worms in the mud and wrestling the football outa his little hands is some of the most memorable times in my life now!
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jonnysmomma wrote:
48) 7/2/2009 12:20:53 AM
I am also raising boys and its a whole other world...its a ton of fun tho!
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velveetah wrote:
49) 7/2/2009 12:46:00 AM
It sounds like your Mom really set an example for you, and inspires you. Kudos to you and your Mom!
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droberts wrote:
50) 7/2/2009 12:57:17 AM
Sounds like you have a great family. Even with a daughter, you don't necessarily get to do the girly girl things. Mine is a sporty girl.
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mawesome wrote:
51) 7/2/2009 1:15:01 AM
i wish she was my mom!
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NanaBa wrote:
52) 7/2/2009 1:39:39 AM
I know it's definitely not the same as raising 4 boys, but I grew up with all older brothers. Being the youngest, let alone the only girl, it was definitely a challenge to be a girly-girl. But, 20 years later, here I am and proud to be a girl. Even though I was teased day in and day out. Especially about my bangs. =[ Never really understood that, but whatever.
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NanaBa wrote:
53) 7/2/2009 1:40:01 AM
I know it's definitely not the same as raising 4 boys, but I grew up with all older brothers. Being the youngest, let alone the only girl, it was definitely a challenge to be a girly-girl. But, 20 years later, here I am and proud to be a girl. Even though I was teased day in and day out. Especially about my bangs. =[ Never really understood that, but whatever.
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coloroverkillx wrote:
54) 7/2/2009 2:35:15 AM
I was always shy when i was a little girl so I definitely like how boys are much more amiable.
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Las Vegas Queen wrote:
55) 7/2/2009 3:53:11 AM
I really enjoyed reading this. :)
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pinkjazzkw wrote:
56) 7/2/2009 5:10:20 AM
woah i love elf.
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sweetiesj wrote:
57) 7/2/2009 5:42:59 AM
What a sweet family, almost similar to mine.
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Joels wrote:
58) 7/2/2009 10:44:18 AM
I had my first son this year and absolutely love every minute off it! Although I hope for a girl in the future, I know boys are so much fun and your story just helped to prove that!
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gtaww wrote:
59) 7/2/2009 12:40:01 PM
You're a great mother! By the way, I have two boys: Ronald and Harry.
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melly1143 wrote:
60) 7/2/2009 3:23:13 PM
What a great blog post! I am that combination woman where I love to look good and stylish when I go out but I still love to play ball with the boys. I think my boy side is winning though as far as children. I want to be the only princess in the house :)
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Mindyyy wrote:
61) 7/2/2009 10:22:56 PM
When I was a child my father was in the Army and one of my most memorable moments was when my mother taught me how to ride a bike while my father was away. I remember feeling very scared and worried that I would fall but my mother was right behind me the whole time pushing me until I was riding a bike all on my own! I can remember being so amazed that my mother could be a girly girl and still teach me how to ride a bike. I will always remember that day :)
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sarah789 wrote:
62) 7/3/2009 12:07:35 PM
I love the description of your mother's style and her individuality. I love "Looking fashionable while staying sporty". I mean thats what life is, staying true to yourself and look good while doing it. Thats fantastic. i love little boys too, you're one lucky mom
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counsel wrote:
63) 7/3/2009 2:42:21 PM
I can totally relate. I too am raising a 4 yr old boy. I think that most women would like to have a little girl to pass those girly girl traditions to but I would never give up the wonderful opportunity I have had raising my son. Even if it requires me to play sport. :@)
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Mit wrote:
64) 7/3/2009 5:17:05 PM
I have no children at this point in time but I cannot wait to have children! Boys sound like a lot of fun to raise! I am also somewhat of a girly girl but I know if I have little boys who want to run an play outside I will be right there with them! :o)
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cluelessdreamer101 wrote:
65) 7/3/2009 7:52:36 PM
well i can kinda relate cuz i have brothers and i totally understand...my brothers are into all that stuff too!!!...but yeah ya gotta love 'em!!!...lol!!!
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EATMARZAN wrote:
66) 7/5/2009 5:12:29 AM
thats not a problem. you are a good mom
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alikay wrote:
67) 7/5/2009 12:44:33 PM
I think it's great that you're a girly girl with multiple boys! You are still letting them be boys and learning as you go but when they get older you can give them advice about other girls and how to dress and what not. With a little girl you would probably just make her a little mini me but with boys you have to stretch yourself and stretching yourself always leads to growing!
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hellojuly wrote:
68) 7/6/2009 9:28:17 AM
ya rock on girly girls. you can be just as tough as a boy and still look cute
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julee4 wrote:
69) 7/7/2009 12:16:40 PM
i lucked out i had a boy first and then my little girly girl. she loves to have her nails painted, and wear any kind of makeup. she is always dressing up in princess dresses.
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mitanari wrote:
70) 7/11/2009 7:14:58 PM
Great post, my mom was like your mom too, yay for cool moms =D
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yellowtulips wrote:
71) 7/12/2009 2:09:27 AM
I know how you feel being a mother myself a a 6 year boy. It can get rough at times. lol!
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Spam wrote:
72) 7/21/2009 11:05:54 PM
I work all day and sleep all night with little time to myself.. but I love your blog.. I saved in as favs.. I will check on it off and on when I got free time... Gurl you look good too
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lovingnature wrote:
73) 7/22/2009 12:26:50 AM
Interesting post. Maybe I'll check out the site.
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shopaholic134 wrote:
74) 9/3/2009 4:59:56 PM
That's so cool! Your mom sounds amazing.
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xoI8oPox wrote:
75) 9/5/2009 10:51:43 PM
Good blog! Thanks for the tips and story!
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Kristy<3 wrote:
76) 9/20/2009 1:14:48 AM
Aww that is really cute! Im a girly girl too, but don't have brothers. It sounds like you and your family are close and thats very important. Family is forever...
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em112204 wrote:
77) 12/15/2009 3:37:03 PM
I would love to have all boys. I have a long time for that though. I am not a girly girl but I am not a tomboy either. I ride horses and help my dad. My best friend and I get manicures together and then I go to the barn. I know families with all boys and as they get older they become hilarious and they will watch out for their mom.
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mgirl wrote:
78) 1/17/2010 5:50:39 PM
Sounds like a great website
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