SUNDAY, OCTOBER 18, 2009
Look, I get it. I get that the whole MILF thing has evolved into some “you must be perfect and look as if you’ve never been pregnant or looked at a cookie” mentality. I get that Britney gets called fat just because she doesn’t look like she used to – and that’s wrong. I get that Salma Hayek heard ALL about it because she actually looked pregnant with her entire body, and not like she was smuggling a basketball.
However, I also remember the I heard the term and how hard I laughed. (Sitting in a theater watching American Pie.)
It was awesome. Those two teenage boys licking the frame and going ape over Jennifer Coolidge.
I mean LOOK at her. She’s hawt, yo.
She’s hot and she does NOT:
1. weigh less than 110 pounds when her body is meant to weigh more.
2. look like a 20 year old when is she twice that age.
3. have skinny thighs.
1. carry herself with confidence
2. dress for HER body type
3. exude an “I could be the best thing to ever happen to you” aura
And THAT, my friends, is what I have in mind when I think of MILF. I’m done being a little girl, and I’m sick of all the images that keep trying to tell me that I’m supposed to aspire to be 15 forever.
So tell me, who is YOUR role model for being fabulous at any age or weight?
Dawn Schnee is a brutally honest mommy blogger with a penchant for cute shoes and insomnia. A life long make-up fanatic, Dawn also counts knitting, sex toy reviews and driving over the speed limit as favorite hobbies. Dawn can be found quietly running the show while her partners loudly lead the crowd at Room 704
"Forever 39" by Beth Feldman"Forever 39" by Beth Feldman
FRIDAY, JUNE 19, 2009
Tick tock, tick tock go the sands of time in the hourglass of my 39th year. Four months and six days left and my thirties are officially history, kaput, finito, stick a fork in it, over. And I have to say, as I inch closer and closer to becoming an official subscriber to More Magazine, I’ve begun to embrace the fact that 40 doesn’t mean I’m old, it’s just the beginning of a new chapter in my life.
Ever since I turned 39, I’ve made a conscious decision to throw caution to the wind and finally pursue what I love. From writing song parodies and performing in my local synagogue (to a standing room only crowd might I add) to waxing poetic on my blog about my trials and tribulations as a working mom with two businesses, a husband, two children, a cat, kitten and hermit crab. Did I mention I’m also working on a book, a play, a radio network, events and a webisode series too? Rachel Ray - watch out because I am on your tail sistah. Except I won’t be cooking up five minute meals, I’ll be singing show tunes and cracking jokes.
I think the reason I’m ready to give my old dreams a try is because I am no longer crippled by rejection. After learning from my mistakes, I’m now confident in my abilities and know that once I embrace the fear, I can do anything...thank you Helen Reddy (she sang “I Am Woman” for those of you who are thinking - Helen who?) Plus, I know what I do well and that’s make people laugh.
After taking a long hard look at my what I accomplished in my twenties and thirties, I have to say I did have some incredible moments on the job - minus the time a temperamental TV star screamed at me while I was nine months pregnant. Although I’ve launched several talk shows, prime time series, specials, movies, I found that despite the glamour, my glorified celebrity babysitting status and the countless visits to talk show green rooms, I had drifted far off course in my career.
I never set out to be a publicist (actually, I don’t think anyone does), it was just the easier road to take after learning that the starting salary as a lowly editorial assistant for a magazine was $18,000 and at $25,000, I could more than afford to share a one bedroom apartment on the upper west side and rollerblade to my job at the “Ricki Lake” show every day while surviving on pasta and Diet Coke (man was I thin back then). Fast forward nearly two decades and I'm happy to report that I’m finding my way back to recapturing those dreams that were abandoned so long ago (minus the killer apartment and rollerblades).
Ever since I left my corporate TV job with my swanky corner office and a fancy title to boot, through my website Role Mommy (www.rolemommy.com), I’ve had the chance to meet some incredibly inspiring individuals - from entrepreneurs, to celebrities, parenting experts, New York Times bestselling authors, fashion executives and magazine editors - many of whom are blogging or tweeting about their amazing journeys of reinvention. What these last few years on my own has taught me is that even though motherhood can sometimes slow us down, it doesn’t mean we’re out for the count. Being a mom has made me stronger and more determined to ensure that whatever path I choose will be one I can be proud of. More importantly, I want my children to see that if you truly set your heart and mind to something, you are capable of great things.
And what major life lesson can I take away from my 39 years? Simple - don't let rejection bring you down. If I could visit my teenage self I would tell her to keep doing what she loves. And during the summer of 39...thank you Bryan Adams (he sang “Summer of 69” for those of you saying, Bryan what?) it’s all about rekindling those shining moments and making them come alive through my writing, events and my singing of course (even if it’s in my car as I cruise along the West Side Highway belting out the soundtrack to “Dreamgirls”). As I round the last corner of my thirties, I've decided that 39 is the new 16. Anything is possible once you re-ignite your passion and finally make your lifelong dreams come true.
Beth Feldman is the founder of Rolemommy.com, an online community and events company dedicated to motivating busy moms to pursue their passion while raising a family. Feldman switched career gears nearly three years ago while she served as vice president for the CBS Communications Group. After surrounding herself with several inspirational individuals, including "Amazing Race" host Phil Keoghan. Beth was bitten by the entrepeneurial bug and ecided to dive of fthe corporate ladder to pursue her dream of creating a community that would celebrate the achievements of mothers who have reinvented their lives while raising a family. After leaving her corner office behind, Beth has never looked back. In 2007, Beth, along with "Extra" producer Yvette Cororon, self published Peeing in Peace: Tales & Tips for Type A Moms. After selling several thousand copies, the pair landed a fabulous agent who sold their little book that could to Sourcebooks, who re-released the book in April 2008 and most recently, sold the Brazilian rights to Peeing in Peace. with several inspirational individuals, including "Amazing Race" host Phil Keoghan,
Additionally, Beth has produced and hosted several high profile events in New York and Chicago (next stop Los Angeles) featuring celebrities, authors, entrepreneurs and parenting experts who have reinvented their lives while raising a family. Over the last six months, Role Mommy launched a database called "The List" that offers media and speaking engagement opportunities for mom authors, bloggers, parenting experts and entrepreneurs. She was also recently named a contributor to Twittermoms where she offers PR and marketing advice to mom bloggers, authors, entrepreneurs and parenting experts (culled from her nearly 20 years in the public relations and entertainment industry). Beth also has extensive media experience both behind the scenes and in front of the cameras, having appeared on national and local television shows, dozens of radio outlets, newspapers, magazines and parenting websites including Momlogic, AOL, Better TV, Parents, Working Mother, Advertising Age and many others.
She currently resides in New Rochelle, NY along with her husband, two children and a cat who sometimes suffers from Deli cat reflux disorder.
To find out more about Role Mommy, visit us at www.rolemommy.com.
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