What I Have Learned About Parenting From TV MomsWhat I Have Learned About Parenting From TV Moms
TUESDAY, APRIL 20, 2010
Being that I am a mother of 4 children. Sometimes people come to me and ask for advice or ask me how I manage 4 children. Well, I have to admit, I try and incorporate a tiny bit of technique from some well known TV Moms.
Roseanne always lives life one day at a time (no pun intended) and embarrasses her kids when needed. She doesn’t fret over grades like a maniac, she has low expectations for her kids and then when they over achieve she is super grateful. She is a parent with struggles and ups and downs just like all of us moms. She tries to instill in her children morals and expectations without coming out and saying thats what she is doing. One of my favorite episodes on Roseanne was when she dressed up in overall’s and had a huge red lipstick smile and was going to walk her kids to school like that. The fear of her doing this was enough to straighten them out right away. I remember when my mom and dad would threaten to come and sit in the back of my class at school, and how scared I was that they really would. Putting that touch of fear in a child over something like this, I believe is a good thing.
The Clair Huxtable in me comes out when I am upset. I love the line she uses in the one show where her daughter Vanessa wants to wear make-up and she tells Clair how “the other girls wear it”. Clair gets her “rolly” eyes out and her pointed finger and tell’s Vanessa, how she could care less what the other girls are doing and what their parents allow them to do, but that this is her house and as long as she is under her roof, she will not be wearing make -up until said age, I think it was 15.
Edith Bunker- I love to be dippy with my kids. It isn’t unusual for me to sing like a crazy woman as I am cooking dinner. I like to keep my home fun. On a whim I will pull out crafts or a game or a movie and call my children to the living room or dining room to participate in it. I love my kids and want to enjoy them while they are young. I want to build many memories with them so they can look back and know how much I love them. I want them to laugh and have fun. And I want them to remember me as a sometimes zainy mom who they had fun with.
And finally Mrs. Carol Brady. She is the one I turn to when I visit the kids school, any events, or out and about around people. She is laid back, loving, helps at school, and mature. Well, I can’t start singing like Edith at the PTO meeting, although I am sure the other moms would get a kick out of it (or perhaps kick me out and ban me). So I go to the school prepared to do whatever it takes to stay involved with that aspect of my kids lives. Parents are key to children learning and succeeding. Children NEED NEED NEED to know Parents care. Care about them, care about what they do/or don’t do, care about what friends they have, what activities they like, care about where they are, who they are with. EVERYTHING. If you are active in your child’s school and they see it, then I believe they will appreciate it and you. It also helps to throw a little Clair in there and let them think you have other PTO moms watching their every move, and also you have an “in” with the principal and that they will let you know ALL about your child and that if they do something to goof off, you will be there to nip it in the butt.
Beth Davis, Beth Davis, blogger of theplussizemommy.com, is a 34 year old Christian mommy of 4. She has been married to her husband for 13 years. She was also a Foster mommy to two adorable boys for a year. After a rewarding Child Care career working with Pre-K children, Beth decided to become a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) to raise her 4 children.
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The Age of the Plus Size Models?The Age of the Plus Size Models?
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 28, 2009
Recently there has been a lot of discussion regarding plus size models hitting the scene in magazines, ads, and on television. What makes a model plus size is becoming a lively topic on a lot of talk shows and in news stories.
I am an expert at being plus size. I have been plus size most of my life. I can remember being plus size since I was about 9 years old. I have always struggled with my weight and still do today, but now with a different perspective.
I no longer let my weight be the ruler of me. What is inside matters most. I am sure that people see me and think 'oh my goodness, look at that fat lady!' And don’t get me wrong, I am not happy with my weight or the state of my health, and I think about it a lot, but I try to not let it stop me from being who I am or doing what I do.
I used to let it stop me. I used to let people get the best of me when I got called names all throughout school. These people could obviously ONLY see the outer me and not my inner beauty. Today people are able to see the REAL me, and accept me for who I am. More and more people are now struggling with weight and with obesity, and therefore, more people are understanding my struggle since they are going through it as well. There are a lot of people I know who weren’t plus size throughout school, but they are now, so it does catch up to you if you are not careful about what you eat or how much you exercise.
People are debating about what size defines plus size models, and whether or not there should even be plus size models. I wish they would not judge these models by their size, but by their inner beauty. When it comes to age, people often say that “age ain’t nothing but a number.” So then, why should we have to go by the number when it comes to modeling? Why can’t models be judged by their inner beauty and personality? I understand that it has to do with the argument that you cannot see inner beauty in pictures, but I believe you can. If a woman is confident and feels great about herself, it radiates and her beauty shines through in pictures, in ads, commercials, and in everything that she does.
Models shouldn't be chosen by size, and shame on the modeling companies for doing so. And a huge HOORAY to the companies who are responding to the need for the representation of plus size women in fashion magazines, and for taking the initial steps to change the outdated ways of ONLY using a size 4.
A beautiful smile and graceful curviness will sell me clothing, accessories. Simply flaunting what she has on and looking REAL can totally sell me any day. And if this means she is a size 4, then that's great, but if she is a size 24 that is fantastic too.
Beth Davis, blogger of theplussizemommy.com, is a 34 year old Christian mommy of 4. She has been married to her husband for 13 years. She was also a Foster mommy to two adorable boys for a year. After a rewarding Child Care career working with Pre-K children, Beth decided to become a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) to raise her 4 children.
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