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What I Have Learned About Parenting From TV Moms
What I Have Learned About Parenting From TV Moms
TUESDAY, APRIL 20, 2010

Being that I am a mother of 4 children. Sometimes people come to me and ask for advice or ask me how I manage 4 children.  Well, I have to admit, I try and incorporate a tiny bit of technique from some well known TV Moms.
A good mixture of Roseanne, Carol Brady, Clair Huxtable,  and Edith Bunker never hurt anyone!

Roseanne always lives life one day at a time (no pun intended) and embarrasses her kids when needed. She doesn’t fret over grades like a maniac, she has low expectations for her kids and then when they over achieve she is super grateful. She is a parent with struggles and ups and downs just like all of us moms. She tries to instill in her children morals and expectations without coming out and saying thats what she is doing. One of my favorite episodes on Roseanne was when she dressed up in overall’s and had a huge red lipstick smile and was going to walk her kids to school like that. The fear of her doing this was enough to straighten them out right away. I remember when my mom and dad would threaten to come and sit in the back of my class at school, and how scared I was that they really would. Putting that touch of fear in a child over something like this, I believe is a good thing.
Kids tend to be more and more fearless these days and thats why they will do things right in public eye’s and could care less about who see’s and what wrong they are doing. They no longer seem to have that little angel sitting on one shoulder telling them to think about what they do before they do it. The devil is there and just tells them to go one and there is no one telling them otherwise until something terrible happens. This terrible has extreme’s. It can be from saying a swear word to committing crimes.
I am not saying I don’t set high goals for my children. I am just one of the kinds of parents who tells my kids, I would love to see straight A’s, but I am not going to kill you over a B, and maybe even a C.  I think not putting the extra stress on a child helps them know, what I Wish and Hope for them, but if they do not reach that level, it will be okay. And you know what ?
My 2 children who are in school (one in 7th grade and the other in 5th) have BOTH been on honor roll during both report card periods this year. My 7th grader has gotten 1 B in his life, which totally astonishes me, but makes me very proud.
I try and be friendly with my kids, guide them, give them the skills they need to make it in life, and back away a little bit. All the while letting them know Each and Every Day how much I love them.

The Clair Huxtable in me comes out when I am upset. I love the line she uses in the one show where her daughter Vanessa wants to wear make-up and she tells Clair how “the other girls wear it”. Clair gets her “rolly” eyes out and her pointed finger and tell’s Vanessa, how she could care less what the other girls are doing and what their parents allow them to do, but that this is her house and as long as she is under her roof, she will not be wearing make -up until said age, I think it was 15.
I pull the “Clair” out when I need her, which isn’t a lot of the time, but I am glad she got my back. I try and be firm with my kids, let them know where I stand on issues such as dating, clothes they are allowed to wear, gadgets they are or aren’t allowed to have/get, and places they can go/movies they can see.
I refuse to do or allow anything that can compromise my children’s well being or safety. I don’t care how hard it is to follow if it means they won’t have a cell phone till they are 18, they won’t. Heck, I didn’t have no cell phone growing up, and I got into enough trouble without one. Sometimes I think all these gadgets enables the children of today and Tweens/Teens of today to get into more trouble. I proceed with caution in these area’s and if I see or hear anything that disturbs me, they are cut off completely.
I build trust with my children, and boy is it a disappointment when they let it crumble and fall. Even just 1 brick of trust that falls or gets a little chipped, it is a huge blow to me.  When children lie it is hard to swallow. As parents we put soooo much effort into growing up upstanding children who won’t lie, who won’t steal, who won’t cheat, etc. and when peer pressure, or just them having a brain malfunction happens and they don’t be an upstanding person, WOW. I always let my kids know how much work it will take to build that back, even if it is just 1 brick, it is a Big one.

Edith Bunker- I love to be dippy with my kids. It isn’t unusual for me to sing like a crazy woman as I am cooking dinner. I like to keep my home fun. On a whim I will pull out crafts or a game or a movie and call my children to the living room or dining room to participate in it. I love my kids and want to enjoy them while they are young. I want to build many memories with them so they can look back and know how much I love them. I want them to laugh and have fun. And I want them to remember me as a sometimes zainy mom who they had fun with.
Another thing that is important in my home is family meal time. Edith mastered this as well. She always had a hot meal on the table, partly for Archie but also for Gloria and Mike. I try very hard to have EVERYONE in my family eat dinner together, around the dining room table every night. Sometimes we eat at 9PM  but we are together and talking and eating together. It is interesting how much you can learn about your family and/or how your families day went from one meal.

And finally Mrs. Carol Brady. She is the one I turn to when I visit the kids school, any events, or out and about around people. She is laid back, loving, helps at school, and mature. Well, I can’t start singing like Edith at the PTO meeting, although I am sure the other moms would get a kick out of it (or perhaps kick me out and ban me). So I go to the school prepared to do whatever it takes to stay involved with that aspect of my kids lives. Parents are key to children learning and succeeding. Children NEED NEED NEED to know Parents care. Care about them, care about what they do/or don’t do, care about what friends they have, what activities they like, care about where they are, who they are with. EVERYTHING.  If you are active in your child’s school and they see it, then I believe they will appreciate it and you. It also helps to throw a little Clair in there and let them think you have other PTO moms watching their every move, and also you have an “in” with the principal and that they will let you know ALL about your child    and that if they do something to goof off, you will be there to nip it in the butt.
There are lots of great TV Moms who we can learn from and who through their character can help us real life moms get through with some laughter, tears, anger, and every other emotion out there. We as moms need this support and help in learning how to raise our children. Raising a child is no easy task, not one bit, so make the most of it, try your best, and be proud of what lovely children you have!

 

Beth Davis, Beth Davis, blogger of theplussizemommy.com, is a 34 year old Christian mommy of 4. She has been married to her husband for 13 years. She was also a Foster mommy to two adorable boys for a year.  After a rewarding Child Care career working with Pre-K children, Beth decided to become a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) to raise her 4 children. 

 


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I Recently Attended a MUAH Party
I Recently Attended a MUAH Party
SATURDAY, DECEMBER 26, 2009




I recently attended a MUAH party at bloggy friend of mines home. What is a MUAH party you asked?MUAH stands for Make Up At Home. It is a party that e.l.f. Cosmetics and SheSpeaks have been running with bloggers so that their friends can learn more about e.l.f. products as well as educate themselves about proper makeup techniques.

I already LOVE e.l.f. products. I was sold on my first try with some lip gloss I had received. But I learned a TON at this party, and had a lot of fun too.

What did I learn? Did you know that PINK is NOT the color for me for my lips? I couldn't believe it! For years I have been wearing the same color pink lipstick and NO ONE told me it was the WRONG color for me. Thank goodness for my friends who are not afraid to tell me the truth. But now I am wondering what else I am doing wrong?!  At the MUAH party, I tried (hesitantly tried) a brownish cocoa color lipstick. I am very pale and I thought to myself, this is gonna look horrible, like I ate a Hershey bar and it melted all over my mouth. But It was great! It really made my lips pop!   Also, I learned that I shouldn't be afraid to "explore" more when it comes to my make-up. There was a bright dazzling green creamy eye shadow there that I loved, but I would never think to even try or buy it.  At the suggestion of my friend Kim (@craftymamaof4), I tried this green creamy eyeshadow and low and behold, IT ROCKED! I was so pleased and everyone was giving me compliments on how much it too made my eyes pop!
By the end of the night, I was a makeup warrior. Trying all kinds of new things. Now I love e.l.f.make- up even more and will definitely be doing some more "exploring" with colors.

The only downfall to the whole party was after we were all dolled up with makeup we had no where to go show it off!!  Although, it DID make me feel good when I came home and my daughter said, "Mommy, you look like a beautiful princess" and my hubby said, "you have make up on".   Well, At least he noticed! lol

Want to expose your friends to e.l.f cosmetics?  Try hosting a MUAH party?  Simply sign up at Shespeaks.com and make them aware of your desire to host a party.

Thanks e.l.f.

Beth Davis, blogger of theplussizemommy.com, is a 34 year old Christian mommy of 4. She has been married to her husband for 13 years. She was also a Foster mommy to two adorable boys for a year.  After a rewarding Child Care career working with Pre-K children, Beth decided to become a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) to raise her 4 children.

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The Age of the Plus Size Models?
The Age of the Plus Size Models?
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 28, 2009

Recently there has been a lot of discussion regarding plus size models hitting the scene in magazines, ads, and on television. What makes a model plus size is becoming a lively topic on a lot of talk shows and in news stories.

I am an expert at being plus size.  I have been plus size most of my life.  I can remember being plus size since I was about 9 years old. I have always struggled with my weight and still do today, but now with a different perspective.

I no longer let my weight be the ruler of me. What is inside matters most. I am sure that people see me and think 'oh my goodness, look at that fat lady!' And don’t get me wrong, I am not happy with my weight or the state of my health, and I think about it a lot, but I try to not let it stop me from being who I am or doing what I do.

I used to let it stop me. I used to let people get the best of me when I got called names all throughout school. These people could obviously ONLY see the outer me and not my inner beauty. Today people are able to see the REAL me, and accept me for who I am.  More and more people are now struggling with weight and with obesity, and therefore, more people are understanding my struggle since they are going through it as well.  There are a lot of people I know who weren’t plus size throughout school, but they are now, so it does catch up to you if you are not careful about what you eat or how much you exercise.

People are debating about what size defines plus size models, and whether or not there should even be plus size models. I wish they would not judge these models by their size, but by their inner beauty. When it comes to age, people often say that “age ain’t nothing but a number.” So then, why should we have to go by the number when it comes to modeling? Why can’t models be judged by their inner beauty and personality? I understand that it has to do with the argument that you cannot see inner beauty in pictures, but I believe you can.  If a woman is confident and feels great about herself, it radiates and her beauty shines through in pictures, in ads, commercials, and in everything that she does.

Models shouldn't be chosen by size, and shame on the modeling companies for doing so.  And a huge HOORAY to the companies who are responding to the need for the representation of plus size women in fashion magazines, and for taking the initial steps to change the outdated ways of ONLY using a size 4.

A beautiful smile and graceful curviness will sell me clothing, accessories.  Simply  flaunting what she has on and looking REAL can totally sell me any day. And if this means she is a size 4, then that's great, but if she is a size 24 that is fantastic too.


Beth Davis, blogger of theplussizemommy.com, is a 34 year old Christian mommy of 4. She has been married to her husband for 13 years. She was also a Foster mommy to two adorable boys for a year.  After a rewarding Child Care career working with Pre-K children, Beth decided to become a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) to raise her 4 children. 

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